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With
the sweet sap of spring trickling in our veins and heating our blood,
thoughts naturally turn to love and to the presence of or wish for a
significant other. We all want companionship. We long for the other who
will understand our deepest desires and know our deepest secrets, loving
us for our own inner beauty and light. However, finding this soul mate,
this intimate friend is often a difficult and lengthy process. And even
if the person sleeps next to us every night, it does not necessarily
mean that they share our sensibilities, our heart throbs, and night
sweats. Proximity does not always yield heart-felt understanding.
The
following exercise is designed to be performed completely by yourself or
with a trusted lover. Should you choose to include your significant
other, explain the exercise to him/her ahead of time. If s/he laughs,
makes disparaging remarks, or feels uncomfortable, you probably will be
better off performing it solo, at least for the time being. The exercise
is designed to awaken your bodily senses and to send your desire for a
“soul intimate” into the universe, where it will be heard by the
divine. (If you are currently in a committed relationship, you can send
your desire for deeper connection with your lover.) You will need some
body paint (I prefer gold but pick a color that calls to you), a fine
paintbrush for each person participating in the exercise, candles, and
some relaxing, trance inducing music. If you have difficulty finding
body paint, you can purchase an eyeliner pencil for each participant
instead.
Choose
a time when you will not be disturbed. You should give yourself at least
an hour for this exercise. Go to your bedroom, turn up the heat (if
it’s chilly), close the blinds (if it’s daytime), light the candles,
and play the music. When the room is ready, each participant takes off
his/her clothes and lies down on the bed. It is best to lay on top of
the covers, not under them, as you are trying to connect to the
universal life force through your body. If you are cold, crank the heat
some more and wait a few minutes for the room to warm up.
While
lying down, take several deep breathes and concentrate on the qualities
of your ideal spiritual lover and life partner. If you are performing
this with your partner, think of all the characteristics that attract
you to your partner, all the personality quirks that you enjoy. Try to
stay focused on your ideals for the length of one song. If you can do it
for two songs, even better. When the song ends, take your paint and
paintbrush or eyeliner and begin drawing swirls, geometric shapes, and
other designs on your body, always focusing on your ideal lover (or the
ideal qualities of your significant other). If your significant other is
participating with you, draw on each other, taking turns. Do not forget
to draw on your most private parts, as well as energy-sensitive areas
such as the bottoms of the feet and the palms of the hands.
When
you feel as though your whole body is covered, sit on your bed and feel
your desire to connect with your significant other (either the one
sitting next to you or the one you haven’t met yet) course through
you. The energy should feel intense and hot. In your mind’s eye, see
the designs on your body pulsing with your heartbeat and then glowing
with your sexuality and desire. When you feel as if the energy in your
body is so hot and so intense that you can no longer withstand it, send
it up to the universe in a burst or flare of light that comes from the
designs on your body.
Afterwards,
you may want to take a shower (with your partner, if you like), eat, or
toast your connection to the universe with a drink. Whatever you do,
make it a celebration of your beautiful body, your gateway to the
divine!
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